Photo of Sugarcunt, a white, fat, assigned female at birth person with teal hair, black lipstick, and facial piercings. They are in the middle of laughing, and have a huge smile on their face.

In 2011, I decided to buy a bunch of sex toys to fuck away the pain of losing my family’s home to a fire. During my shopping, I discovered that people wrote reviews for sex toys and decided I had to start doing that immediately. Since then, the sex industry has become an important part of my life that only grows bigger every year.

By day, I go to the doctor. I go to the doctor so goddamn much. I’m deeply mentally and chronically ill, and after moving across the country to a place where I could get medical care, my health is my job. By night, I write, educate, consult, and market in the adult industry. Sugarcunt Writes began with a focus on toy reviews and sex/dating horror stories, but now it’s more essay-oriented and includes topics like sex education, fat acceptance, mental illness, trauma, and intersectional feminism. I still love to review adult products that pique my interest, so if you make or sell sex toys that you think I’d like, you’re welcome to contact me.

Sex Stuff

I’m a nonbinary, kinky queer. In the BDSM community, I’m a switch who enjoys a variety of roles. I find submission the most sexually thrilling and satisfying D/s experience, but find that domination, while less arousing, satisfies me intellectually and emotionally for different reasons than submission does. Primarily, I’m a mean-ass professional online humiliatrix and findom, an adoring lifestyle service top to my partners (an owner to my pet Insert Trans Here, and a daddy to my babygirl), and with the right daddy dom, I bottom as a babygirl and non-regressive little.

I have an extensive list of existing kinks, as well as many I’m eager to try. You can follow me on Fetlife if you’d like to keep an eye on me there – but I won’t accept friend requests from strangers.

Genitals & Masturbation Preferences

I include this information because I feel that it adds helpful context to my reviews.

I have a fat vulva with large labia majora, short labia minora, and a relatively small clitoris with no real hood to speak of. I prefer broad stimulation over pinpoint, and my typical masturbation style involves applying pressure to my prepuce (or the top of my vulva if I’m using something with a head as broad as a Hitachi) with minimal direct contact to the clitoral glans. I have a deep cervix and don’t usually enjoy having it touched.

My favorite insertable toys are usually girthy, textured, or both. I am capable of ejaculation, but typically only in response to a very specific type of stimulation, and never from G-spot stimulation alone. I’ve never had an orgasm without some degree of clitoral stimulation. I usually take a large amount of time and effort for other people to bring to orgasm without sex toys, but I can crank out an orgasm with a Hitachi in less than five minutes.


If I’m not tweeting inappropriate shit or spreading my ass for the internet, you can usually find me playing games, reading, spending time with loved ones, improvising songs about my cat, making spreadsheets, crafting, or doing something witchy.

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